This Is Why You're Single

with Laura Lane and Angela Spera

Creators of the humor and advice book of the same name, Laura Lane and Angela Spera candidly breakdown real-life dating disasters with a new "reason why you're single" every week.

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    This week we welcome comedic actress and the creator/playwright of the Off-Broadway show #DateMe: An OkCupid Experiment, Robyn Lynne Norris. We learn what happened when she created a bunch of fake online dating profiles as an experiment and what stats she discovered about online dating during her research. In dating news a writer gets creative trolling scammers on Tinder & a man hacks Tinder and tricks men into thinking they're talking to a hot woman when they're really chatting with another dude. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener tired of having weird encounters on dating apps and another listener who wants the guy she’s seeing to delete his apps. This week's episode is brought to you by FabFitFun, BioClarity, and Zola!

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    This week we talk about never settling and how to know if you're settling (it can be different for different people!). In dating news a woman writes a viral essay about calling off her wedding & we discuss whether certain wedding traditions have a place in 2019. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who is letting her insecurities dictate who she dates and another listener who is stuck in a relationship that is not making her happy. Angela is worried she'll be murdered when Ian isn't home and Laura talks about an old couple she became obsessed with on vacation. This week's episode is brought to you by Squarespace and Care Of!

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    We welcome Keith Malley and Chemda from the podcast Keith and the Girl to talk all about dating after a divorce (which they're both doing!). Keith tells us what happened when his dad started flirting with his ex wife and Chemda tells us how she found out her ex was cheating on her and how she found happiness after getting out of a toxic marriage. We discuss how soon to date after a divorce, when to tell people you're divorced, how to meet people and more. In dating news we discuss how to increase your response rate on dating apps & 14 tips for dating after divorce. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who hasn’t dated in 18 years and another listener deciding if she should take back her cheating husband. This week's episode is brought to you by Talkspace, ThirdLove, and Scentbird!

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    Saying "I love you" can be a huge deal in a relationship. We discuss when to say it and how to say it this week and what it means if your partner wants to wait. In dating news we talk about why one girl’s breakup ruined her love of Harry Potter & a why a 107-year-old woman thinks staying single is the key to longevity. Then we answer your listener questions including two listeners struggling over how to have that "I love you" conversation. Angela discusses why she's obsessed with Fleabag and Laura talks about how getting sick affected her relationship. This week's episode is brought to you by Beauty by Design, Lola, Scentbird, and Squarespace!

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    This week we talk all about engagement etiquette - how soon can you get engaged after a bff? Do you have to ask a friend to be in your wedding if they asked you? Who can post first? In dating news a woman sells her engagement ring on Facebook & we try out a 7 day love challenge. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener whose engagement plans got overshadowed and another whose crappy ex fiance is crawling back. Angela can't believe no one cried happy tears when she bought her wedding dress and Laura is back from the hospital and lives to tell the tale! This week's episode is brought to you by BruMate, BioClairty, and FabFitFun!

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    This week Ian is back as a guest co-host and we talk all about learning to love your partner's quirks - how to laugh at the funny ones and address the annoying ones. In dating news, we learn about signs that you are a “pillow princess” & signs your partner is bad for you. Then we answer your listener questions, including a listener who wants to know whether or not Chuck E Cheese is a good first date spot and another listener wondering if it’s ok to be sad that her sig other didn’t make a big deal out of her birthday. Angela is trying to keep things "spicy" for her therapist and Ian becomes the go-to photographer for a bachelorette party. This week's episode is brought to you by Care Of, Squarespace, and Quip!

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    This week Laura is out sick so Angela’s fiancé, Ian, fills in to co-host! We talk about how to navigate that awkward pre-engagement phase of a relationship. Angela talks about getting invited to an engagement party but not a wedding and Ian talks about finding a wedding florist. In dating news we discuss the history of the engagement ring & what divorced men say they wish they had done differently in their marriages.Then we answer your listener questions including a male listener with some questionable advice for us on why people are single and another listener whose future sister-in-law is planning her wedding date too close to hers. This week's episode is brought to you by Candid, ThirdLove, and Away!

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    This week we welcome back to the podcast certified relationship coach and Laura's yoga teacher Jillian Turecki to talk about her five step method she created to finding the right person, what it means to pursue meaning over the "high" of a relationship and why "forever" might be a myth. In dating news we discuss what makes a person creepy & a new sex drug for women. Then we answer your listener questions including one woman who can’t decide if she can deal with a guy’s insecurity and another who wants to know how to maintain the honeymoon phase. This week's episode is brought to you by Squarespace, Talkspace, and Brooklinen!

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    This week we welcome comedian Andrea Allan who just released her new EP Gonzo on iTunes. We talk about owning your flaws and short comings and ridding your life of toxic people who make your mess even messier. In dating news we discuss why the millennial sex recession is BS & what happened when a woman accidentally sent a photo of her fiancé's penis during their engagement announcement. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who is getting slut-shamed by her BF’s friends and another listener who enjoyed her first three-way a little too much. This week's episode is brought to you by Clone-A-Willy, BioClarity, and Lola!

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    This week we talk about how to handle someone who won't commit to you: whether to give an ultimatum and what to say to a flip flopper. Angela talks about Ian getting hit on at a bachelor party and Laura talks about overhearing a teenager's commentary about her mom group. In dating news we discuss why smaller diamond rings are all the rage & how to bullyproof yourself. Then we answer your listener questions, including a listener whose crush won’t commit and a listener who tries to set up an old fling with a friend and fails. This week's episode is brought to you by Talkspace, Squarespace, and Quip!

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    This week we talk about tips for dating when you've moved to a new place. In dating news we discuss why you should dump your “toyfriend” & why Hinge got a bump with gay users. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who got dumped after moving to a new state and another listener who found out her friend and her were being pursued by the same guy! Angela's friends do an engagement shoot with their dog and later found out the dog had a giant boner the entire time and Laura talks about being into "old people" stuff with Nic. This episode is brought to you by BruMate, CareOf, Clone A Willy, and Zola!

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    This week we talk about how to observe cues and signals from people to know if they're into you or not and we give both good and bad examples of real life pickups. In dating news we discuss eight things long term couples do & a new study shows that 70% of singles want a serious relationship. Then we answer your listener questions including a guy who wants to know how to strike up a convo with a stranger and another listener who wants to know if she needs to tell her new guy that she’s sexually active with someone else. Angela find out Ian is into her wonky eye and Laura goes on double baby dates. This week's episode is brought to you by Candid, Brooklinen, and ThirdLove!

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    It's hard to be the one to say sorry so we give you tips on how to do it! Be the bigger person! Angela talks about getting her but waxed and Laura talks about loving her child versus loving Nic. In dating news a woman does a divorce photo shoot & we give tips on how to make your dating profile stand out. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener trying to forgive a cheater and another listener worried about seeing her ex at graduation. This week's episode is brought to you by Squarespace, BioClarity, and HelloFresh!

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    This week we talk about how to turn down a date you weren't that into without feeling guilted on going on another date just to be nice. In dating news we discuss phrases that can cause trust issues & the drugs people like to mix with sex. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who is afraid she is being too picky and another listener who got into a relationship even tho he knew there was no spark. Angela talks about how choosing a therapist is kind of like dating and Laura tells an inspiring dating story she heard this week. This week's episode is brought to you by Storyworth, Quip, and Lola!

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    This week we dive into what happens when you overthink things and how it can affect relationships. Angela talks about her friends' partners doing their hair and then we get serious: we discuss what to do when you and a family member have very different views on abortion. In dating news Facebook has a new dating feature & we tell you how much people gossip a day on average. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who’s got menu anxiety and another listener who got a booty call from a cross country match and doesn’t know it. This week's episode is brought to you by SquareSpace, Care/Of, and MVMT!