This Is Why You're Single

with Laura Lane and Angela Spera

Creators of the humor and advice book of the same name, Laura Lane and Angela Spera candidly breakdown real-life dating disasters with a new "reason why you're single" every week.

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    This week we talk all about dealing with insecurities and how that affects relationships. Maybe it's an insecurity you have or your partner has – it can cause trouble! In dating news we discuss dreams that might be red flags in a relationship & how to get over heartbreak. Then we answer your listener questions including one guy insecure about his small package and another wondering if it’s normal to fight a lot early in a relationship. Angela talks about Ian's paranoia with bed bugs and Laura talks about a Reddit thread that had a personal shout out. This week's episode is brought to you by: Celeb News Ride Home Lola (offer code: SINGLE30) Zola (offer code: SAVE50)

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    This week we talk about why you or someone you like might have a fear of commitment and how to get over it or embrace it. In dating news we discuss the real reason for your fear of commitment & how to break up with someone you love. Then we answer your listener questions, including a listener who is afraid of relationships and another listener who is attempting an LDR without a DTR. Angela talks about battling over the registry with her fiancé and Laura talks about wanting Nic to join her health obsession. This week's episode is brought to you by: Squarespace (offer code: SINGLE) Care/Of (offer code: THISISWHY50) Honeybook

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    Today we're talking how to convert a first date into a second date: the right attitude, what to say and more! In dating news: Tinder bios for each zodiac sign & how to make plans without getting a drink. Then we answer your listener questions, including one listener who thinks she’s getting mixed signals and another worried her boyfriend is settling. Angela talks wedding color swatches and Laura talks about traveling without her baby. This week's episode is brought to you by: Sakara (offer code: XOLaura) Prose BioClarity (offer code: SINGLE)

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    Happy new year everyone! It's our annual New Year, New You episode where we talk all about how to start the new year fresh when it comes to dating & life. We discuss our personal resolutions and goals and hopefully inspire yours! In dating news we discuss what the new phrase “self partnered” means & how to eat alone and like it. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is unsure if a guy is shy or uninterested and one hilarious bad date story. Angela has a co-worker who gives first dates a strange option of splitting an expensive meal and things backfire when Laura has an idea to achieve a "highly evolved" relationship. This week's episode is brought to you by: ThirdLove Sakara (offer code: XOLaura)

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    On this week’s podcast we discuss how unrealistic those holiday movies on TV are and how they might affect your relationship prospects. In dating news we discuss holiday gift ideas based on your partner’s love language & the most popular day for online dating is approaching. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who wants to break up with her boyfriend before the holidays and another listener whose real-life rom-com romance didn’t work out as she planned. Angela and Ian spend Thanksgiving a part and Laura tries on a sexy outfit that gets Nic's attention. This week's episode is brought to you by: Wantable Squarespace (offer code: SINGLE) Lola (offer code: SINGLE30) Sakara (offer code: XOLaura)

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    On this week's episode we discuss all the dating advice we wish we could tell the guys in our lives from how often to confirm dates (triple confirm!) to how to clean a bathroom (throw away old products stat!). In dating news we discuss a survey that reveals how men view modern masculinity & what men can do to turn their partners on. Then we answer your listener questions including a guy crushing on his new roommate and another guy who wants his lady to initiate some dates. Angela gets negged by a gay guy and Nic holds onto his harvest fest grudge. This week's episode is brought to you by: StoryWorth MVMT BioClarity (offer code: SINGLE)

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    We are deep into the middle of Cuffing Season where people pair off during the cold winter holidays! Are you cuffed, looking to be cuffed or avoiding cuffing entirely? We get into it all! In dating news we discuss the viscous cycle that might be affecting your sex life & the science behind cuffing season. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is no longer sexually attracted to her long distance bf and another who wonders whether she is leading on a pen pal. Angela worries her movie obsession is too much for Ian to handle and Laura accidentally leaves something embarrassing out in the bathroom. This week's episode is brought to you by: Squarespace (offer code: SINGLE) Bombas Away (offer code: SINGLE) Care/Of (offer code: THISISWHY)

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    Happy thanksgiving! This week we talk about the importance of gratitude and saying thank you in your relationship and how to not take the little things for granted. In dating news we discuss the new relationship status more millennials are signing up for & who gets the dog after a divorce. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who can’t get past the first date and another who is 50 and looking for love. Angela doesn't know what to do when her dad accepts a friend request from her ex boyfriend on Facebook and Laura overreacts when Nic isn't excited to go to a Harvest Festival in Randall's Island. This week's episode is brought to you by: Rothy's MVMT (offer code: HOLIDAY19) Sakara (offer code: XOLAURA)

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    This week we talk all about religion when it comes to dating, interfaith relationships and dealing with family. In dating news we discuss how online dating is desegregating America & how to actually follow the dating advice you get. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is dating a guy who wants to wait until marriage to have sex and another listener whose ex wanted to wait until marriage to say “I love you." Angela gifts her friend a vibrator to help her deal with stress and Laura meets twins who date the same guy. This week's episode is brought to you by: Talkspace (promo code: SINGLE) Squarespace (promo code: SINGLE) Lola (promo code: SINGLE30) Sakara

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    This week is all about the dos and don'ts of workplace romances (hint: watch out for problematic power dynamics). In dating news we discuss what to consider before dating a coworker & the difference between happiness and joy and how to find more of it in your life. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who wants to know if she’s crazy to date a coworker and another listener whose crush won’t date her because they work together. Angela struggles with taking compliments about her relationship with Ian and Laura's hair stylist has a new boyfriend! This week's episode is brought to you by: FabFitFun (offer code: THISISWHY) BioClarity (offer code: SINGLE) Manscaped (offer code: SINGLE) Bombas

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    This week we tackle a problem everyone struggles with: making assumptions. We discuss how to not do it (Look for evidence! Put yourself in someone else's shoes!). In dating news we discuss six assumptions that can kill your relationship with employees (and how that relates to dating) & what having a boyfriend has to do with sleep. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener frustrated her boyfriend just assumed she’d be down to do long distance and another listener wondering why she cares so much about getting engaged. Angela's boyfriend goes on a platonic date with one of her friends and Nic earns a sexy reward after fixing a flood in their apartment. This week's episode is brought to you by: Lola (offer code: SINGLE30) Squarespace (offer code: SINGLE) Zola Care/of (offer code: THISISWHY)

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    This week we talk about how get over fears that are holding you back from dating. We all get scared over crazy things real & imagined! Angela talks about going through her grandma's love letters and Laura talks about feeling like a traitor hanging out with a friend's ex and her new boyfriend. In dating news we discuss Tinder's new choose your own adventure series & tips for proposing an open relationship. Then we answer your listener questions including a listener who is afraid of being a spinster and another who doesn’t know who to swipe right on. This week's episode is brought to you by: BioClarity (offer code: SINGLE) ThirdLove Rothys

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    Recovering from a breakup is hard so this week we welcome Lindsay Meck, the co-founder of Onward, a Post-Breakup Concierge Service. She gives tips and tricks of how to get over a breakup and what she's learned from working with people who are moving on. Also on the lineup we talk about what’s new in dating news: signs you’re not ready to date after a breakup & whether or not its ok to ask your S.O. to delete pics of their ex. Then we answer your listener questions, including a listener grappling with staying friends with their ex and another listener who has questions about pet-sharing with an ex. This week's episode is brought to you by: Bombas (bombas.com/single) Aurate (offer code: SINGLE) MyLola (offer code: SINGLE30)

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    This week we talk about how to keep your independence and identity in a new relationship. In dating news Facebook is officially a dating platform now & how much money the average American spends on dating. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who is worried she’s made her boyfriend her entire world and another who has been dating a guy for a year who won’t call her his girlfriend. Angela has too many vibrators and Laura learned Nic could step up to the plate when she needed him to in the hospital. This week's episode is brought to you by: Your Super (offer code: SINGLE) SquareSpace (offer code: SINGLE) TalkSpace (offer code: SINGLE)

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    This week we talk about the difference between a bad boy and a dirt bag. In dating news we discuss how Venmo is causing relationship drama & the most important things to have in common with your S.O. according to one matchmaker. Then we answer your listener questions including one listener who found out she was the sidechick and another who found out the guy she is seeing is super homophobic. Angela struggles to find a way to show her appreciation to Ian and Laura has a snub in her triple double date plans. This week's episode is brought to you by: Care / Of (promocode: ThisIsWhy) FabFitFun (promocode: ThisIsWhy) BioClarity (promocode: Single)